hey guys, what makes a real friend for you. I believe most guys don\'t have a true real friend an most folks we call friends are really just aquaintances. an I think if a guy a one or true real friends in a lifetime he is a very lucky man indeed. am I wrong, an describe your \"friend\".
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I\'m careful to use the word \"friend\" and opt for \"acquaintance\" when I can ... but it can sound a little \"obvious\" that I am not using the word \"friend\", which then seems like a put-down.
Therefore, for lack of a more effective vocabulary, I have found myself using \"good friend\" and \"friend\" to discriminate between the two.
\"I have a good friend who __________\" means that the person I\'m referring to is more than an acquaintance.
But, you are correct ... when it comes down to it, a man should put a very high value on the word, so high that he should be glad to call his spouse a friend. Mine is.
It is amazing, really, how lonely the vast majority of people are, and how, when it really hits the fan, how few people can be counted-on 100%.
Therefore, for lack of a more effective vocabulary, I have found myself using \"good friend\" and \"friend\" to discriminate between the two.
\"I have a good friend who __________\" means that the person I\'m referring to is more than an acquaintance.
But, you are correct ... when it comes down to it, a man should put a very high value on the word, so high that he should be glad to call his spouse a friend. Mine is.
It is amazing, really, how lonely the vast majority of people are, and how, when it really hits the fan, how few people can be counted-on 100%.
A wise man once told me that \" Family doesn\'t mean shiz. Friends are whats important.\" That serves true a lot of the time. You can choose your friends. I have one good friend. I also have many acquaintances that I can call on to help on big projects to help without expecting anything in return. Except maybe some cold beer when the job is done.
cohunter14
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I guess I am very fortunate in that I have multiple people I call a friend, people I know who would drop anything to help if necessary. I guess I also have a different view than bowhunter...I think family is everything. But that is the way I have been brought up too. I am proud to say that my father is my best friend.
elky McElkerson
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i have some good friends.
i also have some true friends. we are like brothers..one guy did something i was not gonna approve of,..he needed to get it off of his chest. of everyone on this green earth, he told me.
i kept his secret. it was easy, not my secret to tell. but the real test, i didnt judge him at all. he was a friend first. i just listened, and only offered advice when he needed it. or asked.
i love my inner circle. oddly enough, i dont have any true friends that hunt. my two closest buds, i can count on them for anything..they can rely on me the same.
i also have some true friends. we are like brothers..one guy did something i was not gonna approve of,..he needed to get it off of his chest. of everyone on this green earth, he told me.
i kept his secret. it was easy, not my secret to tell. but the real test, i didnt judge him at all. he was a friend first. i just listened, and only offered advice when he needed it. or asked.
i love my inner circle. oddly enough, i dont have any true friends that hunt. my two closest buds, i can count on them for anything..they can rely on me the same.
archery bum
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all know the word, most do not know the meaning of the word. I have 2 friends in this world and both are older than me. One is 10 and the other is 22 years older. most in my generation and the younger generation I can\'t believe anything coming out of their mouth.(not all but most)
Bob Frapples
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I\'ve tried to instill in my kids the importance of ones words. Like it\'s already been stated, ultimately that\'s really all we have. I did my best to never issue a threat of punishment on my kids and not follow through on it.
It worries me that too much of the electronic campfire has washed it off them, I guess time Will tell.
I can\'t think of but one friend that I could call 24-7 and could count on.
It worries me that too much of the electronic campfire has washed it off them, I guess time Will tell.
I can\'t think of but one friend that I could call 24-7 and could count on.
archery bum
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I didn\'t think I was getting through too my kids either when they were growing up but the older they get the more of my morels I tried to instill in them are coming out. Makes me proud too see
elky McElkerson
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kids..i have trouble seeing kids these days.
even my brother in law. a grown man. if we all go out for dinner, he will take off and disappear. he will come back with some weird specialty drink from a store in the shopping center.
blows me away, he doesnt pause to ask a simple question, \"going to ____to get a drink..anyone else want one?\"
i finally asked my wife about it, and she did say it was rude, but the kid was spoiled growing up..my mom would still bonk me if i did that..
my friends and i, fight for the check..usually...we take care of each other.
but kids and friends..different things altogether.
even my brother in law. a grown man. if we all go out for dinner, he will take off and disappear. he will come back with some weird specialty drink from a store in the shopping center.
blows me away, he doesnt pause to ask a simple question, \"going to ____to get a drink..anyone else want one?\"
i finally asked my wife about it, and she did say it was rude, but the kid was spoiled growing up..my mom would still bonk me if i did that..
my friends and i, fight for the check..usually...we take care of each other.
but kids and friends..different things altogether.
cohunter14
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\"bnsafe\" said:
I think hunting with aquaintences is fine, but I am an easy going guy too. I have come to realize that not everyone is going to hunt as hard as I am. But I can\'t let that bother me. Truthfully, if you do it right you are not seeing a bunch of the guys in your camp, unless they are tagging along with you during the hunt. Otherwise, it\'s maybe a cup of coffee and breakfast and then dinner and a few stories in the evening.
elky McElkerson
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i hunt with nice guys. but my hunting friends..the ONLY thing we have in common is hunting.
we are kinda awkward outside of camp. hahaha..
we are kinda awkward outside of camp. hahaha..
Colorado_Lew
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I mainly hunt with family and have a friend that comes out every couple of years.
Had what I thought was a good friend that ended up burning us on our hunting area a couple of years ago.
With my brother and his boys, me and mine we have a full camp.
When the out of state friend is able to come out he pitches in with anything that needs to be done with out delay.
In return when I travel to his home state and hunt he opens his home up to me and his wife always makes us a great dinner at the end of the hunting day. We enjoy each others company and don\'t ask anything of each other.
My brother and I have shared a hunting camp since we were kids. We don\'t hunt with each other but part ways each time out and enjoy telling stories of the day around the campfire at night.
Had what I thought was a good friend that ended up burning us on our hunting area a couple of years ago.
With my brother and his boys, me and mine we have a full camp.
When the out of state friend is able to come out he pitches in with anything that needs to be done with out delay.
In return when I travel to his home state and hunt he opens his home up to me and his wife always makes us a great dinner at the end of the hunting day. We enjoy each others company and don\'t ask anything of each other.
My brother and I have shared a hunting camp since we were kids. We don\'t hunt with each other but part ways each time out and enjoy telling stories of the day around the campfire at night.
I have a few friends. For me it is an extremely tight circle. This is a group that I would drop what I am doing and go anywhere in the world for at the drop of a hat. They would do the same for me.
Now for the others that I like and hang out, well those are buddies. They will do a lot for you but not like the above group.
Then the last group is the acquaintance. They are people you know and most likely would help if needed and it was convenient for them.
The group of guys I hunt with are in the friend group. We can spend 12-16 days hunting and as soon as we get back to the truck, start talking about going next year. We are all from different walks if life.
Friends are truly special people and I am blessed to have a few.
Glenn
Now for the others that I like and hang out, well those are buddies. They will do a lot for you but not like the above group.
Then the last group is the acquaintance. They are people you know and most likely would help if needed and it was convenient for them.
The group of guys I hunt with are in the friend group. We can spend 12-16 days hunting and as soon as we get back to the truck, start talking about going next year. We are all from different walks if life.
Friends are truly special people and I am blessed to have a few.
Glenn
